When People Hurt You, Silence is Golden

Some people should arrive with it plastered across their heads what they are really like inside.  But it never takes long to spot them.  It’s hard though when it is someone close to you that you should be able to trust.  Every now and then a family member  or close friend will stick you in the back, which I would say is the worst kind.  When they do and you know their modus operandi, call it what it is and move on.  Betrayal hurts because it’s an intentional act.  When I speak with anyone on a confidential level, what we share will remain there.  Some people do not know how to do this.  This is how you deal with them………

Guarding your heart:  Some people simply do not deserve a lot of your time and conversation.  When you share your heart and mind to someone that should be close enough to but when you finish a session of conversation and you  feel unfulfilled or worse, unsettled, this is a sign to stay out of as much dialogue with them as you can.  You cannot listen and take in all the negativity and remain in the correct frame of thought if you do.

Like Minds:  Anyone that you speak to that does not have a similar mind set or experience can be your friend but the ones that you constantly butt heads with because of their opinions concerning yours and vice-versa are best left with as much space between you as possible.  Like minds speak and talk similarly.

Don’t Listen to Others:  If you have ever been in the situation to know what a person is like or capable of, you may find uninformed people who tell you  how you should feel about them and how you should relate to these people.  These are not the people to listen to if you know in your heart what to expect from their advice.

Guarding Your Mouth:  Sometimes you feel that you have to speak to people because you feel  it’s simply expected because of strong family ties.  You may try and try to avoid serious conversations with them even when it is about other close family members and before you know it,  you see why you have avoided them.  They may goad you over months and years and before it’s over, they have betrayed you and repeated something you said during a so-called confidential conversation.

Beware the Gossiper:   Anyone that wants to tell you something that someone has said about you should be avoided.  If the person who said it wanted you to know, it is likely that they would have told you.  If they have not, the Bringer of the Bad News has created a breach in a relationship.

The Solution:  Silence is Golden!

PEACE!!